Anon, I am going to assume you are trying to be helpful. You are trying to suggest something that, in your mind, is a reasonable way to make my life easier and less stressful. I am going to assume you’re not trying to make me feel hurt with this message. I hope that is the case.
However, I don’t think you realise you’ve kind of said… exactly the wrong thing to say. It feels very invalidating. I’m not accusing you of doing this on purpose. But maybe I can explain why this message made me feel upset, so you can understand the position I’m in, and why your message was the opposite of helpful: it was insulting and invalidating.
'are you flirting with me or are you like this to everyone' a classic novel by me